I didn’t spend a lot of time stressing and planning the wedding. I was pretty laid back about it, and I can be a procrastinator when it comes to doing things that aren’t that much fun to me. Planning a wedding is one of those things. Don’t get me wrong, I wanted to get married, I just wanted to show up and it be planned for me. These are the 10 things that I wish I would have done differently at my wedding.
1) Gave my photographer a list of photos I wanted. Dress shot, getting ready, matt getting ready, my parents waiting on me, guests waiting, etc
2) Wrote a toast for the rehearsal dinner / reception
I’m a terrible on-the-spot speaker. I ended up saying “it means so much to us that you’re here” about 5 times too many. I forgot to thank my parents, bridesmaids, etc. Worst toast ever.
3) Wrote vows before the day of
Yep, I wrote my vows on my wedding day. Now, I loved my vows, and I wrote from the heart, but it took away time I could have spent with my girls
4) Stopped and took it all in during the reception.
It goes by FAST!! And when I say Fast, and you think Fast, multiply it by four because it goes faster than you can imagine. Read this sentence four times and let this sink in. Everyone says it, because it’s true.
5) Gave a toast at rehearsal dinner and introduced everyone
6) Had the officiant stand out in the seats so we could face our guests and parents
My best friend’s officiant did this at her wedding and I loved it! I thought of it, but I forgot to say anything during rehearsal. All of these people are your close friends and family and they probably spent money coming to your wedding and you’ve spent a lot of money and instead of awkwardly looking between your future spouse, the officiant, and then awkwardly back to the “audience” just skip this and have the officiant stand either in the audience or in front of them to the side. Trust me, this is awesome. Give it a go at rehearsal and see how you like it.
7) Stayed on time getting ready.
Our makeup girl was really slow and ended up going over on time! We had a specific time slot for our wedding so this cut into our reception. When it’s a 3 hour wedding + reception time, and you eat up 45 min of that with makeup, that’s not cool. I should have spoken up sooner and made sure were were on time.
8) Take a picture with everyone.
We had a small wedding so this was totally do-able. But, we missed a few people and it’s sad now.
I put on my dress before my deodorant! I was taped and zipped up and couldn’t get in there to get deodorant on. Luckily, it wasn’t warm so I wasn’t sweating.
10) Thanked my parents and really took time to check in with them and how they were doing.
This is a big day for parents too and I feel like I didn’t spend enough time with mine. This is a huge step in life for them too, and I got focused on me and I feel like I didn’t take enough time to just soak this all in with them. I should have included a nice thank you in my wedding toast, but since I winged it, the toast was terrible.
That’s it. Those are my 10 things that I wish I had done differently, and I’m sharing them with you so you don’t make the same mistakes.
Oh yeah, and stop and enjoy this. This is the one time in your life that you’ll have this exact moment. Cherish it. It is gone much too quickly.